Dealing with writer’s block • Blogging Insights#4
Dr Tanya – in her great blog Salted Caramel – has been running her Blogging Insights series for nearly three months. In this quest she has unearthed a wealth of insights from bloggers, and by keeping this all in-the-public-eye so to speak it can be of tremendous value for bloggers. Not in the least for rookie-bloggers like myself. So far she has fired off 11 salvo’s, or sets if you will, of questions. Some of these are pretty easy to answer. Others require some ‘soul-searching’. Now she has given us, who like myself are pretty new to this form of ‘mental exercise’, the opportunity to catch up with the front-runners.
So here are my answers to the 4th one, in which the good Dr only asks one brutal question:
Q: What do you think is the best way of dealing with writer’s block?
Ooh, to be answering this as a newbie, a rookie (some might even say a wannabe) writer immediately puts me for that damned thing writer’s block. But ‘analyzing’ where it comes from does wonders…for me.
Are people bored with what I have to say? Do they think it’s utter nonsense? And will they tell me so in that thing called the comment-box? Is it interesting enough to write down, let alone share? And these are only some of what I call my superficial fears, anxieties etc.
Do I have more fundamental ones than that then? Oh yes, don’t you worry. Try ‘do I still have what it takes to build an argument?’ Or ‘even so, can I build it in a short and concise manner that used to be one of my trademarks many lifetimes ago?’ Or this one for good measure: ‘do other people – bloggers – care about the same issues I care about?’ And there are plenty more where these came from but I won’t bore you with (I’m doing it again I know). Like ‘stories’ about my PD…
Dealing with writer’s block then
But then my girlfriend gave me this…
A line from the back cover that caught my attention and put it on top of my ever growing pile of books to read over the holidays is:
‘In life, we have a limited amount of fucks to give. So you must choose your fucks wisely’.
While reading the first chapter only of it (so far) it at least gave me some valuable pointers to overcoming my writer’s block…
When most people envision giving no fucks whatsoever, they imagine a kind of serene indifference to everything…Mark Manson
There’s a name for a person who finds no emotion or meaning in anything: a psychopath. Why you would want to emulate a psychopath, I have no fucking clue.
Manson then gives three ‘subtleties’ that should help clarify the matter:
Subtlety #1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.
…here’s a sneaky truth about life. There’s no thing as not giving a fuck.You must give a fuck about something.
Subtlety #2: To not give a fuck about adversity, you must give a fuck about something more important than adversity.
If you find yourself consistently giving too many fucks about trivial shit that bothers you…chances are you don’t have much going on in your life to give a legitimate fuck about.
Subtlety #3: Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.
Essentially, (as we grow older) we become more selective about the fuck’s we’re willing to give. This is something called maturity. It’s nice; you should try it sometime. Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuckworthy.Mark Manson
So, to cut to the chase, my way of overcoming writer’s block is not giving a fuck. But bearing these three subtleties in mind.
If this hasn’t bored you, you can find links in the sidebar to my answers to Dr Tanya’s first three question area’s in the sidebar. If you want to sprint ahead and read my answers to Dr Tanya’s latest set of q’s, click here.